We’re working on this as well, but I can share the mentality and hopefully its something you can run with.
Remember most gigs are comptetive and have other people doing the same thing with higher ratings, better designs, more respect, etc.
So I’d suggest you put your best forward. Sometimes that can mean settling at 1st to get your foot through the door. Maybe your 1st couple gigs might not be the most appealing or be paying as much as you’d like at the end of the day, but the more you work and do a good job… the more you can demand your preference (whatever it may be).
Ps: even interns become somebodies one day