The word "dear" is used too much

[heyfellow1]

Is it just me or alot and alot and alot of sellers use the word “dear” too much. I mean its ridiculous, your probably laughing at how i’m getting worked up but it’s so annoying 😂. Anyone finds it annoying like me?

[nikavoice]

We’ve had multiple discussions about the term “Dear” on the forum. Yes, I get annoyed, too.

Here’s one.

Using “Dear” in place of someone’s name/username is very colloquial and I thought this would help some sellers with their communication GOOD USES: “Dear seller”“Dear buyer”“Dear NAME” (example: Dear Bob)“Dear USERNAME” (example: Dear Bob1989)NOT GOOD: “Hi Dear”“Yes Dear”“No Dear”Using a person’s username or actual name is a better choice than simply calling them Dear (it’s much more appropriate), and it will help you build a relationship with clients.

It’s a funny thread to read through. 😁

Being addressed as Honorable & Respected is kinda over the top. I’d be coolio with “Hi, there.” But, DEAR not so much. Don’t dare, call me dear. The only Dear I’m into are the Dear Abby columns.

I found another one. HAHAHAHA so yeah it’s an epidemic. Sir, Dear, Ma’am ugh!

Look, I know that “sir” is generally seen as a sign of respect that can potentially be gender neutral (but obviously leans towards men). However, that doesn’t stop me from feeling a blow to my ego when you use it to address me. I at least hope that my profile picture does not look like a “sir.” Some guy used this to address me 3 times. Please try not to address a female as “sir.” We tend to not like it.

[heyfellow1]

We’ve had multiple discussions about the term “Dear” on the forum. Yes, I get annoyed, too.

Here’s one.

Using “Dear” in place of someone’s name/username is very colloquial and I thought this would help some sellers with their communication GOOD USES: “Dear seller”“Dear buyer”“Dear NAME” (example: Dear Bob)“Dear USERNAME” (example: Dear Bob1989)NOT GOOD: “Hi Dear”“Yes Dear”“No Dear”Using a person’s username or actual name is a better choice than simply calling them Dear (it’s much more appropriate), and it will help you build a relationship with clients.

It’s a funny thread to read through. 😁

Being addressed as Honorable & Respected is kinda over the top. I’d be coolio with “Hi, there.” But, DEAR not so much. Don’t dare, call me dear. The only Dear I’m into are the Dear Abby columns.

I found another one. HAHAHAHA so yeah it’s an epidemic. Sir, Dear, Ma’am ugh!

Look, I know that “sir” is generally seen as a sign of respect that can potentially be gender neutral (but obviously leans towards men). However, that doesn’t stop me from feeling a blow to my ego when you use it to address me. I at least hope that my profile picture does not look like a “sir.” Some guy used this to address me 3 times. Please try not to address a female as “sir.” We tend to not like it.

Ah, I actually searched for other threads but didn’t find any…sorry.

[english_voice]

Ah, I actually searched for other threads but didn’t find any…sorry.

I so want to reply “that’s okay dear”. But I won’t. It really is annoying isn’t?!

I think it’s mostly a simple misunderstanding of how to use / mangle the English language.

I genuinely find it annoying as well, but I accept that not everyone speaks fluent English.

[zerlina84]

The expression “a buyer knocked me” annoys me more.

[nikavoice]

Ah, I actually searched for other threads but didn’t find any…sorry.

It’s all good. 😎

I mean when I write letters, I sometimes start off with Dear, Jigsaw.

Writing it in a Hi, Dear form is awkward.

Anytime, I see that word, I cringe. I had a few people addressed me as hun recently. Eek!

[tiakovolana]

it’s probably a cultural thing as well. as a transperson, being misgendered is most aggravating to say the least, but i accept it, whereas when someone from the local co op calls me sir i want to watch them bleed

besides, deers are nice

[catwriter]

The expression “a buyer knocked me” annoys me more.

The expression “a buyer knocked me” annoys me more.

Better than saying “a buyer knocked me up”, I suppose.

[guymastrion]

it’s probably a cultural thing as well. as a transperson, being misgendered is most aggravating to say the least, but i accept it, whereas when someone from the local co op calls me sir i want to watch them bleed

besides, deers are nice

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[cherboub]

Those words are used on the Eastern of the globe. But We should avoid them and acting professionally (what’s acceptable for all the globe)

• Using words like: Hey, hi, hello, good luck and have a good day…etc.
• Calling others by theirs names or usernames.

Note: What’s ethical in a certain country maybe is unethical in other.

[surajrenuka]

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. Kind of like we say, “Hey sir” in America they substitute it with “dear” as a way to make their client feel special

Indians speaks Hindi all the time…so I cant say they say “Dear” ,may be few or more have learnt that “Dear” thing from somewhere else and they start saying But yes, we call people SIR to show respect and some time to make phrase polite…

I found out that people around here on forum dont like to be called sir even if their profile pictures show they are SIR 😃

Not sure why but I have had a lots of client and they dont mind beig called sir and they used to call me sir even if I call them from their name…

calling some one from their name make conversation better but what if their user name is BANANAPANTS007 ?

[guymastrion]

. Kind of like we say, “Hey sir” in America they substitute it with “dear” as a way to make their client feel special

Indians speaks Hindi all the time…so I cant say they say “Dear” ,may be few or more have learnt that “Dear” thing from somewhere else and they start saying But yes, we call people SIR to show respect and some time to make phrase polite…

I found out that people around here on forum dont like to be called sir even if their profile pictures show they are SIR 😃

Not sure why but I have had a lots of client and they dont mind beig called sir and they used to call me sir even if I call them from their name…

calling some one from their name make conversation better but what if their user name is BANANAPANTS007 ?

I guess so. All of the buyers who called me “dear” were from Pakistan.

[tiakovolana]

Those words are used on the Eastern of the globe. But We should avoid them and acting professionally (what’s acceptable for all the globe)

• Using words like: Hey, hi, hello, good luck and have a good day…etc.
• Calling others by theirs names or usernames.

Note: What’s ethical in a certain country maybe is unethical in other.

What’s ethical in a certain country maybe is unethical in other.

that’s what i mean, and in the context of fiverr i don’t think it’s really anything to get bent out of shape about

[meldawn9]

It shouldn’t be used at all. It’s inappropriate in Canada. Kind of demeaning. If it is used, it would be used by a mother for her child.

[coerdelion]

@nikavoice - 🤮

In the north of England they used to call people “ducks” - particular to Lancashire, I think. That was a friend’s pet hate.

On occasion I may say something like “thanks, lovely” - but that’s only acceptable in London. Here in Glasgow it might get you a black eye …

Use people’s name, their handle … or nothing. “Honorifics” are not honourable in every culture.

Just fyi - “Dear” here in the UK was part of an extremely patronizing insurance advert catch phrase - “calm down dear”. Again 🤮

[heyfellow1]

@nikavoice - 🤮

In the north of England they used to call people “ducks” - particular to Lancashire, I think. That was a friend’s pet hate.

On occasion I may say something like “thanks, lovely” - but that’s only acceptable in London. Here in Glasgow it might get you a black eye …

Use people’s name, their handle … or nothing. “Honorifics” are not honourable in every culture.

Just fyi - “Dear” here in the UK was part of an extremely patronizing insurance advert catch phrase - “calm down dear”. Again 🤮

When someone calls me dear, I feel like the person is treating me like a child.

[nikavoice]

@nikavoice - 🤮

In the north of England they used to call people “ducks” - particular to Lancashire, I think. That was a friend’s pet hate.

On occasion I may say something like “thanks, lovely” - but that’s only acceptable in London. Here in Glasgow it might get you a black eye …

Use people’s name, their handle … or nothing. “Honorifics” are not honourable in every culture.

Just fyi - “Dear” here in the UK was part of an extremely patronizing insurance advert catch phrase - “calm down dear”. Again 🤮

@coerdelion I didn’t know you’re from the 🇬🇧 that’s pretty cool. Love the accent. Once a upon a time a 🇬🇧 dude addressed me as “Luv”. Of course, it didn’t bother me because we were friends.

Just fyi - “Dear” here in the UK was part of an extremely patronizing insurance advert catch phrase - “calm down dear”. Again 🤮

LOL, I’ll swing by YT to see if I could find it. 😃

[tiakovolana]

@nikavoice - 🤮

In the north of England they used to call people “ducks” - particular to Lancashire, I think. That was a friend’s pet hate.

On occasion I may say something like “thanks, lovely” - but that’s only acceptable in London. Here in Glasgow it might get you a black eye …

Use people’s name, their handle … or nothing. “Honorifics” are not honourable in every culture.

Just fyi - “Dear” here in the UK was part of an extremely patronizing insurance advert catch phrase - “calm down dear”. Again 🤮

In the north of England they used to call people “ducks”

that’s meant to be “doc”, but stylised as “du’” or “dot”, isn’t it?

[coerdelion]

No. It’s a bird that swims. As in duck that says “quack”.

[lenasemenkova]

The notion that “dear” is somehow cultural and thus should be accommodated or accepted as a “sign of respect” is ridiculous. You don’t see slavs running around demanding everyone to use patronymic names just because for the larger part of us it’d be considered respectful.

Just drop it. You can drop “sir”, “dear”, “mam” and more importantly, “maaaam” and just go with “hello!”. It’s not that difficult.

[tiakovolana]

i come from the planet snowflake and hello is offensive to my people

[Alex.M]

dear…and I would add ’ sir ’ , ‘brother’ , ’ dude ’ … ‘’ my friend ‘’

[lenasemenkova]

I’ve been called “brother” multiple times on fiverr. Not even “dude” or “bro”. Literally “brother”. Some people’s copy/paste skills and the level of care are just embarrassing.

[arnukas]

I never use Dear. Most of the times I just say Hello, Username123… That’s it. I also get annoyed when someone says Sir, man, mate, dude, bro to me. That’s one of the words I hate the most.

It is meant for formal sentences, but yes, there are many other synonims instead of these.

[vickiespencer]

The expression “a buyer knocked me” annoys me more.

Better than saying “a buyer knocked me up”, I suppose.

Better than saying “a buyer knocked me up”, I suppose.

That is exactly what I think when I see that expression!