@multisync3: From one buyer to the next, I have no problem with both buyers and sellers ranting about bad experiences but you are getting ridiculous.
You've had a couple of bad experience from a handful of purchases. I've had several from over 120 purchases.
There are two sides to every story. You are entitled to tell yours.
Instead of criticizing and arguing with every seller, you need to chill, sit back and listen to the advices of the experienced people here.
Many sellers are also avid buyers. They have had way worse experience than yours because they have bought more.
I choose not to make assumptions about all sellers based on a few. When you have built a long term relationship with your seller (the good one) there will be a trust factor. They trust you won't screw them and you know they will do great work for fraction of what you pay elsewhere.
Doing little things like giving them an advanced tip (without demanding any special treatment) let's them know how much you appreciate them. All experienced top sellers are leary of new buyer, because they don't know you.
Theses folks have had to deal with chargebacks, cancellations because people order something they can't do - then get slammed with 1 star review, etc.
I agree that there are some sellers here that should never have open up shop and I would love to see them gone.
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